Self Absorption at Discount Prices. - this sounds stupid and cliche, but how is it so easy for guys to tell a girl all these compliments and say how cute she is and how beautiful she is and so on JUST for sex? and then just LEAVE? I’m a little hurt right now so I sound angry af…but honestly. It just happens to me a lot. and I know you’re gonna tell me to keep my guard up. but seriously how is it so easy for them to just say it and leave?

22nd September 2012

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Anonymous asked: this sounds stupid and cliche, but how is it so easy for guys to tell a girl all these compliments and say how cute she is and how beautiful she is and so on JUST for sex? and then just LEAVE? I'm a little hurt right now so I sound angry af...but honestly. It just happens to me a lot. and I know you're gonna tell me to keep my guard up. but seriously how is it so easy for them to just say it and leave?

Sex is fun, right? And sex is meaningful, right? Well, for some people, the fun outweighs the meaning. It’s a thing that happens. And I’m not going to tell you to keep your guard up because a. fuck that, and b. I know you’re not going to. Sex is strange because you never really know if you’re going to be dealing with someone who invests a lot emotional weight into it, or someone who just likes doing it a lot. That is a risk that you seem to be willing to take.

The easy answer is maybe take some extra time with someone before you bone. I suggest some public places with decent lighting, in scenarios that can’t be classified as “hanging out.” That’s right, I’m suggesting you go on an honest to goodness date or three. If you can hold someone’s attention (and vice versa) fully clothed, shoving breadsticks into your mouth, there’s probably a good chance they’ll stick around at least long enough for you to find your glasses or clean up the candle you knocked over while you were doing that weird move you were trying out. You know, the one that’s all elbows.